Mirror Mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of them all?”
-Evil Queen
Today I put on a cute shirt and a new pair of jeans. I straightened my hair and added a little make-up. What I hoped to accomplish was to squash this depressive mood in the bud. But how could I forget how much I hate looking in the mirror?
I can still remember the first time I looked in the mirror and smiled. Sadly, it wasn’t all that long ago. Mostly, looking in the mirror has led to criticizing every part of myself. It leads to a longing to be prettier. Prettier meant skinnier and tanner. I always considered myself the ugly friend, and the mirror always agreed.
I stopped looking in the mirror and started covering all reflective surfaces with cheesy quotes about self-love. This really was only putting a band-aid on the problem. I read the quotes and laughed about them, but when I did look in the mirror I still hear that inner critic. The quotes only made her louder and gave her more material to work with.
Mirrors are not the only time this critic comes out. Stepping on the scale, seeing other girls, and scrolling through social media. My critic thrives in these environments. I, on the other hand, only feel worse.
The church thinks responding to issues like this by telling people that their bodies are a temple and they should cherish it. They tell people we aren’t to be envious of others. They tell us we all have been created by God. What they don’t understand is all these “solutions” only transfer one problem into another.
Now not only do we not appreciate ourselves, but we also realize how we are failing in our faith. No, I don’t think the church realizes this is happening. In fact, I know they have well meant intentions, but we are struggling. We don’t need reasons why we should love ourselves. Most of us know that we should. What we need is someone willing to walk alongside us while we struggle with learning to love ourselves.
Mirror Mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of them all?
© 2020 Kay Smeal
you put your self down .SHOULD NOT HAPPEN .i am disabled have m.e ..ibs .migraines the list goes on .i take part in a lot lot research.i have very bad Panic attacts ware i am very nausea then i am Vomiting all over .people never see the every day effects there views/judgements are very Snotty Nosed
my blog.http;//mark-kent.webs.com
twitter.supersnopper
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I know that it should not happen, but that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t happen anyway. I have PTSD, major depressive episodes, panic disorder and anxiety. I am well represented on the mental health spectrum. The inner critic is real. I work hard to befriend it, but that’s an ongoing journey.
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i can see all of what your saying .ever EFFECTING .i was bullied as a child .very soon after that
I was Abused Sexually .i have m.e .Bladder and Bowel problems BECAUSE i was Abused.i am not afraid too say,not afraid too talk about it .DIFFERENT Adults TOOK TURNS ON ME …
i, am ALIVE .YOU are Alive how have you been TODAY
mark
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I am glad you are able to overcome what has happened to you and be brave enough to talk about it.
I am well. How are you?
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wow your a Pastor .have you done any thing Disability
i am from, England
mark
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I am not a pastor yet, but we’ll on my way. I am actually designing an independent study for disability ministry.
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have you heard of Aspergers Syndrome .i all so have this .i would be very interested in telling me
more about your study for disability ministry
i am allso co-Author of a book .JUST PUBLISHED ..book is about .Disability and Sex
do have a Link
mark
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Yes I have a few great friends who have Aspergers. I don’t have very many details right now. But congrats on being a co-author that’s great!
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have you your self had any bullying
book has been going well. i had some very good Replies
mark
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I have yes. And good, I am glad.
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please do keep in contact
my e.mail .mkentdad12@outlook.com
mark .i follow you on,twitter
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Will do!
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Great post! I am also a Christian. I’ll be praying for you!
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Thank you so much!
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Know that you are beautiful, regardless of what your feelings tell you! You’re loved so so much by God! Have a beautiful day!
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Thank you so much! You are too kind!
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